Do you ever get bored with yourself?
Running around by the tick of your daily hustle that the routine distracts you from yourself?
When you go home and unwind, do you distract yourself more until you tire out and go to bed? Unconsciously preparing yourself to do the same routine all over again?
When the daily busyness is too distracting, where’s the time for ourselves?
With children, time seems nonexistent. For them, there’s plenty of time to do everything and anything especially go exploring #thedoracomplex #therestroubleafoot.
So when children stumble upon a mirror and see themselves for the first time, they become little narcissist. Too occupied with themselves, they begin to use that same curiosity and exploration to figure out, "Who the hell is that other baby?!". And though it’s overwhelming at first, once a child gets to know their reflection, there’s no stopping them from making baby sized hand and mouth prints all over your clean mirrors.
But as adults, can we do the same? Do we have the time to enjoy our reflections and be in awe of the person looking back?
In Disney’s Mulan, the song, Reflection lyrically breaks down the conundrum of knowing yourself.
Who is that girl I see, staring straight back at me?
Why is my reflection someone I don't know?
At the end of the day, it is just you and your reflection. If the person on the outside doesn’t match the inside, then you’re a stranger in your own skin #thepictureofdoriangraycomplex.
And when I’ve felt like a stranger, when the real me was trapped in the mirror, the whole situation was disappointing. There were disconnections i.e. my body issues and other outer insecurities that fueled my negative picture of myself. And soon, looking in the mirror became a habitual avoidance.
Self acceptance is learning how to let your reflection show who you are inside.
So let’s meet with ourselves by looking at ourselves in the mirror, or in a journal, or a selfie, or (insert your own form of reflection here). Look at yourself as if it were the first time and get to know the person staring back.
Because your reflection is the physical manifestation of your relationship with yourself. And your relationship with yourself is the best thing that has ever been yours.
Questions to Consider:
Are you disconnected with yourself? If so, what are the things that cause this disconnection? How will you repair your relationship?
Tip to Practice:
Take the time to really look at yourself. See if the outward image reflects who you are on the inside. It doesn’t have to be a mirror. You can use a journal, a camera, (insert your own form of reflection here). Just don’t let the daily hustle distract you from knowing yourself.