Come Together Right Now Because We Run the World

When the Beatles meet Beyoncé

Storytelling is an art form we exhibit every day. We share stories with our friends and family when we talk about our day. And on social media, we share our perspectives and favorite gifs to strangers online—forming our own mini-communities. However, it is also the space where authenticity and transparency are at odds with each other.

The fear of being catfished (both relationship wise and friendship wise) is EXTREMELY prominent nowadays, because online anonymity can cause people to withhold their true selves online versus who they are offline. That's why it's SUPER important to start sharing our stories everywhere.

Yes, the fear of being ostracized for your feelings is valid. Yes, the fear of being the only one who experiences these feelings is valid. Yes, the fear of losing the trust and respect of the people closest to you is very, very valid.

But what's the alternate universe?

Maybe it's a universe where you've created a space ruled by mental illness because you are bottling up your true self. 

Maybe it's a universe where you're going through the motions with the ones you love—becoming detached because they don't fully understand who you are. 

Whatever that universe is, is it worth to keep it when you are not living in your full self?

I don't think so.

Sharing your true feelings is necessary both on and offline, because you'll be doing yourself a disservice otherwise. Because the place where things become difficult or hard is where the magic of change happens. And also the fear. That's why it's important to share your feelings, because you never know. You never know if the person you care about knows what you're going through. You never know who in your life can guide you through your situation. You just never know.

But by putting your true self out into the universe, by living in your full truth each and everyday, you'll be verified. Because once you put it out there, your world will shape for the better—allowing people who are not good for you to leave and for people who are like minded to come into your life.

As a woman of color, the media is not kind towards fully exploring all the emotions of a Black Woman especially the quirky, awkward side. As a woman, there's still a reinforcement to be apologetic about who I am especially when it is not inline with how woman or a Black woman is "supposed to act". 

No. I am tired. That's why I create how I create. That's why I share my feelings wholeheartedly both on and offline. That's why I strive to be my full self, because I won't let myself down. Because when I leave this world, I will only leave with myself. So the only person who matters above all else is myself. 

So even though it's hard to have those conversations, it's more important to unlock yourself in order to free yourself and be your full being. Through that type of love and respect for yourself, people will gravitate towards that—forming communal support as you live in your truth. 


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aimless (definition) | without purpose or direction

Let’s be real, I didn’t have a plan after college. The plan was that I would find an internship (bonus if it’s paid) and work part time to put the money on the side towards grad school aspirations.

This plan seemed pretty solid.


However, let’s be honest here. Once I started working for my internship and two part time jobs, I let myself drown in the daily hustle and questioned why I didn’t feel fulfilled every single day. I mean I was making steps to completing my goals.


Well in August, after no longer having any of the jobs that I acquired during my first year out of college, I realized I was back at square one. And now that I was back in the job search pool,  I realized during my forced self-reflective waiting period that:

 1) Did I actually want to find another “job”? and
2) What, to me, would be my ideal position?

Ya, I couldn’t answer that. And it wasn’t until I was put back into the job market that I even thought about these questions.

My present situation had me feeling aimless and disappointed. However, I didn’t want to wallow in it either. By noticing these negative problems, I wanted to see how they could be tackled on in a holistic way. And after much contemplation, I decided to create BARE, Being Actively Real Everywhere.

This statement to live BARE is an affirmation to acknowledge and appreciate who you are right now regardless of your present situation. And through appreciation, you’ll be able to genuinely express yourself regardless of the disappointments and the failures that may hold you down. Acknowledging these feelings in a genuine and honest way in order to give you the courage to break out of self perpetuating negativity and move forward.

Being a wanderer with purpose is using self-reflection, self-acceptance and self-care to define your purpose in order to openly express yourself.

Being a wanderer with purpose is not the you who focuses heavily on your future self causing you to procrastinate and take you away from the power of present change.

And a wanderer with purpose is not the you who lingers in the past either. Because the past is a place of stagnation. A repetition of fading memories. And all you need is past lessons in order to navigate you toward present progress.

For me, I’m claiming that I am a wanderer with purpose, because I’m defining my purpose by not shooting for someone else’s goal or fulfilling a plan that is not necessary for me to rush into.

I’m a wanderer with purpose because I am reflecting on my past and learning its lessons.
I am accepting the seemingly unfittable pieces that make up who I am.
I am caring for myself not only physically but mentally through positive living.
And I’m a wanderer with purpose because I am able to express myself openly especially with this blog by practicing this form of digital self-reflection, self-acceptance, self-care and self-expression.

All we have is here. All we have is this present space to make change and define our purpose.

Wander through life with purpose carrying a pencil to erase the steps that seem unfruitful and arbitrary to your growth. And navigate this life using self-reflection, self-acceptance, self-care and self-expression to guide you toward knowing yourself.



What does being a wanderer with purpose mean for you?


As we close 2015, reflect on past events both positive and negative.

Accept this year’s achievements as well as its disappointments.

Care for yourself by taking small steps to take care of your body and mind i.e. more hours of sleep, reading daily quotes, meditation, etc.  

Express yourself through your own unique form of expression without unconstructive criticism all day, everyday.

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